Contrary to popular belief, who you want to be is who you are. Many people will argue that the two are different but in my eyesight, if you are longing to be someone, that is who you truly are deep down and for some reason you are afraid to show it.
I've come to this conclusion in a very simple way. The way I want to look, feel, act; the person I long to be feels exactly like who I really am whether I look that way or show it on the outside or not. It doesn't take much thinking to figure it out. If you want to be someone, you already are, you just have to let it out.
If you were to ask someone who they are the answer would probably be a "false" answer forced out of them by the constraints of society. They'll tell you their favorite color, food, what they like in a person, but they won't go any deeper than that. Ask them who they want to be and they will give you an entire diagram and description. That picture they paint for you when you ask them the latter is who they really are.
For example, I'm not a quiet girl who is always reserved and conservative, but that is who I seem to be while at my day job. Who I really am is a punk/emo chick, who longs to dye her hair a different color every month and loves to travel the world. That is the answer I will give if someone asks me who I want to be.
The sooner we realize that the person we are yearning to be is the very same person we truly are, the sooner we'll be able to fully become that person. It won't just be a mere feeling on the inside but it will appear on the outside as well. When who you want to be merges with who you are, your life will be happier and more content. Who you want to be is a very real thing and by denying that, you are denying your true self.
It's time to stop holding back who you are and let the person you want to be take over...
-Sharelle Cameron, CEO/Founder of Jumping Waves